I was never told....

I was never told that maintaining healthy friendships are difficult. While relationships are based upon the exchange with one another, I did not realize that constant communication is required. I had considered the friend as part of my family. I expected them to understand and love me unconditionally. I was wrong. I was wrong to expect anything.

Since then, I have learned to lower any expectations and to love unconditionally. I realize that the relationships we have take maintenance, but it also takes unrelentless acceptance. No one should be judged.

When codependency is the foundation of one person, it makes the relationship difficult and toxic. When one person chooses to address the problem and decides to end all over-bearing relations, they look like the bad person.

Bad person? I don't think so. More like courageous person! Kudos to those who can leave that codependent relationship. Props to those who choose to leave the toxic realtionship. Congrats to those who have finally decided to live their own healthy and happy life.

No one needs (nor deserves) to be treated like a doormat.

Make the choice...take a stand!

The Expectation of Others

Society seems to be stuck on this idea that if you are in your 30's and single, something must be wrong. When I think about it like that, society is wrong for negatively judging me in this way; placing me in their category of "something must be wrong." They are the judgmental bastards who sit on their high horse, expecting me to live my life by their rules. Well, frack their rules! I live my life my way and my way only. Ok, so I may be persuaded at times if you come at me with a compelling argument. Until then, stop judging!