Sake...yummy!

The 10th annual sake tasting arrived in town last night. With 300 different blends from Japan and around the world, my friends and I were fortunate to sample various sake that is not even available outside of Japan.

It seemed like a great idea to attempt to drink every one....IMPOSSIBLE! What the hell was I even thinking about. While each type was judged, I had the overall winners in the differing categories...at the very least. Yummy goodness.

Along with the sake, some of my favorite restaurants offered tapa-like pupus. Hamachi, pork belly, shrimp ceviche....so frackin good! Then...while waiting in the longest line for:



....we thought, it better be awesome! Uh, it wasn't. So disappointing I can't even mention where it came from.


So the after effects: I awoke to a sake headache! Oh well, c`est la vie!

I was never told....

I was never told that maintaining healthy friendships are difficult. While relationships are based upon the exchange with one another, I did not realize that constant communication is required. I had considered the friend as part of my family. I expected them to understand and love me unconditionally. I was wrong. I was wrong to expect anything.

Since then, I have learned to lower any expectations and to love unconditionally. I realize that the relationships we have take maintenance, but it also takes unrelentless acceptance. No one should be judged.

When codependency is the foundation of one person, it makes the relationship difficult and toxic. When one person chooses to address the problem and decides to end all over-bearing relations, they look like the bad person.

Bad person? I don't think so. More like courageous person! Kudos to those who can leave that codependent relationship. Props to those who choose to leave the toxic realtionship. Congrats to those who have finally decided to live their own healthy and happy life.

No one needs (nor deserves) to be treated like a doormat.

Make the choice...take a stand!

Why do I bother sometimes?

I have the urge to make dinner for everyone. This doensn't always happen like this. I get requests to make something in particular, I want to eat something specific, or I'm too tired to make anything so everyone must fend for themselves. I sometimes don't know 'how to' make dinner just for me; the result is leftovers, or food for the masses.

For those who come in to eat, well, eat it and be thankful. I don't want to hear how I should have made it or a completely new recipe that doesn't even resemble my final dish.

Just shut up and eat it! Or don't eat it! So many comments; as my grandma used to say "Too many cooks, get out of the kitchen!"

Why do I bother sometimes? I thought I was being helpful, but the problem is that I was 'expecting' some sort of appreciation for my efforts. I have to remind myself AGAIN, to just do it for the pleasure and whatever happens, happens (or doens't happen).

I think this is an endless battle; and instead of letting this get the best of me...I need to just ACCEPT IT FOR WHAT IT IS!

And to all those who want to 'suggest' to me how it should be done...well.....make it your damn self!

The Expectation of Others

Society seems to be stuck on this idea that if you are in your 30's and single, something must be wrong. When I think about it like that, society is wrong for negatively judging me in this way; placing me in their category of "something must be wrong." They are the judgmental bastards who sit on their high horse, expecting me to live my life by their rules. Well, frack their rules! I live my life my way and my way only. Ok, so I may be persuaded at times if you come at me with a compelling argument. Until then, stop judging!